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1. First of all congratulations to you both!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How does married life feel? Is it still
new? (lol) Connors: Thanks for the congratulations. We are enjoying married life to the fullest. It does still
feel new, and we don't see this feeling leaving anytime soon.
 2. Let's get right in....Bobby let me ask you, how difficult, or not difficult is it being married
to a psalmist? And Amy, same question to you; how difficult, or not difficult is it being married to a musician? Bobby:
I would have to say it is actually not difficult. It works very well since I am a musician. Amy is also very good at teaching
choirs and parts. That's something that I am not good at (lol). So in the aspect of her being a psalmist it complements me
very well. At times it can get a little hectic honoring requests for her to sing here and there, but everything always seems
to work out for everyone.
Amy: It actually complements me since he is a musician. When I have to minister
in different places he is always right there to help me out and make sure I am in the right key for whatever song I sing.
I love the fact that we are able to practice together and rehearse in our own home.
 What are some of the challenges you all face with you both being in the music ministry? Amy:
Since we are both involved in the music ministry in church sometimes we participate with other churches or ministries to assist
in whatever work they are trying to do for God. So there are even times when I might be asked to sing with a group, but Bobby
is not asked to play. Or he is asked to play for someone and I am not asked to sing. Along with all of that comes rehearsals
for preparation of those events. A lot of times we find ourselves sitting in the back of the church waiting for one another
to complete a rehearsal or service and at times that can be tiring (lol).
Also there are even times when we will go
to a church service just to support or enjoy the service, but one way or another Amy will be called on for a selection or
Bobby will be asked to accompany someone with music. Of course we were both taught to always be ready and willing to assist.
We never frown or fuss, we just kind of look at each other and smile. We are thankful God has blessed us with gifts to share
with everyone.
 Now Amy, you had to make a recent transition, moving from Life Center International COGIC to Greater
Liberty COGIC; how is that going? Can you share some of its up's and down's? Have you joined any ministries?
Amy: It was hard leaving Life Center International COGIC. I was under Dr. Elijiah Hankerson's and Lady Hankerson's
leadership for over 8 years. It was tough to just get up and leave. I was very involved in the music, drama, youth, and women's
department there. Also all of Phase 2 were members at Life Center International COGIC. I learned and grew a lot at Life Center
International COGIC, and I believe that the teachings I received there helped me to make a smooth transition to another ministry.
The transition was not as hard as I thought it would be because I had visited Greater Liberty COGIC for many years before
we got married. The church seemed to welcome me then, and once we got married I was happy to be a part of a church that already
felt like family. I am now on the praise team, choir member, and I work side by side with Bobby who is the Youth Department
President.
 Now Bobby, my questions to you is how are you dealing with this transition? With you being
the minister of music, or main musician there, have you encountered any challenges? Bobby:
I have to say that I have not encountered any challenges. I must be honest and say I was a little worried about her leaving
Life Center. I visited her church quite often and every time I was there she was busy doing something, and I know she loved
her church. I really wanted her to be genuinely happy at Greater Liberty COGIC. I can see now by how involved she has gotten,
and how excited she has been about helping me with various projects that she is happy at her new church home with me. Pastor
and First Lady Eanes along with the rest of the Greater Liberty COGIC family have really embraced her, welcomed her, and let
her get right to work (lol). So my fears disappeared once I began to see her enjoying her new church home.
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Now concerning you both being a part of the ministry of Phase 2, how do you all separate business
from marriage? Bobby: I try to keep it somewhat separate. Since I am one of the main musicians for Phase
2 I still look for her to communicate things to me in that nature. For example, if we are learning new material I still ask
her to get me the material before we rehearse whether its via text, email, or CD. But of course she still bends the rules
since we live in the same house!
Amy: (lol) Ditto to what he said. Seriously though, I really don't
think I put a difference between the two. I see him as my husband either way. We can be at home not even dealing with Phase
2 business and I'll ask a Phase 2 question, or we can be in rehearsal for Phase 2 and I'll ask him what he wants for dinner.
Oh, and by the way, I am still working on getting him the music in time. (lol)
 How good/bad of a working relationship do you all have? If you all have a disagreement, how
does that affect the working and marital relationship? Can you give an example...? Amy: Of course we have
had disagreements! One time I remember Bobby getting upset with me at a rehearsal because he thought I was joking and playing
too much. He didn't say much at the rehearsal, but I know his facial expressions and I could tell he was upset. So once we
left the rehearsal he did let me know that he thought I was playing around too much and the rehearsal was too long because
of that. I thought we were having a good time (lol). But issues like that, and any other issue we really try hard to communicate
with each other and work them out so they do not affect our marriage or future actions toward each other. One thing we are
learning is that the more we communicate about everything, the easier our marriage is!
 Do you all plan on doing anything musically together but separate from Phase 2? Connors:
Humm, I think we could see that sometime in the future (lol). We have not put any serious thought or effort towards that yet,
but we both love what we do so there is definitely a possibility. Maybe we will put some YouTube clips up together, haha.
Amy, are you considering to take a leave of absence from the music ministry any time soon to
pursue motherhood?????? Amy: Anytime soon? I don't know about anytime soon. But yes when the time is right
I do plan on having children. I don't want to be very active during my whole pregnancy so I will probably be taking breaks
during my pregnancy or pregnancies. I have heard that pregnancy can have an effect on your vocal chords and I don't want anything
to have any negative long term effects. So I plan to do everything I can to have a safe and healthy pregnancy.
 Any advice you would like to give to our newly married couples who are both in the music ministry
together? Amy: I would say to always talk and make sure you communicate. Try to be there to help one another
and to build them up and not bring them down. Always support your spouse in whatever they are doing. Even if it is the smallest
thing, it should be big to you. Be their number one fan. But also remember that after the music comes the marriage. It's great
to be in music ministry together but even better to be married to the one you love! If your marriage is solid, then everything
else will follow! Always tell your spouse that you love them, and especially show them that you love them. You might not be
able to be there with them all the time, but if they know you love and support them sometimes that can be just as good.
Bobby: I think Amy summed it all up pretty well. One thing I love about what Amy and I do is that we are
able to pour into each other, and build one another up. I am more of a traditional style musician, and she is much more contemporary
in her style of music. So there are times when I teach her hymns, and she teaches me the new songs (lol). Sometimes one of
the best things to me is having Amy sit through a service I have to play for. She might have to sit alone, but just knowing
she is there with me makes my job a lot easier. I haven't been married for very long, but from what I know so far I would
advise any newly married couples in the music ministry together to be all that they can be for each other! It is an awesome
thing to share in music ministry together. I strive to do my best to follow the will of God for a successful marriage. One
thing that has been made clear to us is that if God is with us nothing can be against us. We never let the music take over
our marriage. We love and care for each other first and then everything else follows suit! With God on our side all things
are possible, and we are enjoying this new journey to the fullest!
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